Divorces can be stressful for many Texas denizens, especially when children are involved. Child custody disagreements are common as are disagreements about how the children should be raised. However, it’s important to put the children first, advises an expert in a recent piece on the subject, even when dealing with the emotional turmoil that can arise during the divorce process. The expert provides tips for managing anger, anxiety and fear.
Having separation anxiety from being without children is common; however, being clingy or calling and texting too much while the child is with the other parent can disrupt the child’s process of coping with new life arrangements. It’s important that children feel that they, along with the other parent, can manage their time together. Oppositely, when the children are home, many parents may confide too much in older children or be overly affectionate toward younger children to fulfill emotional needs. Such behavior can leave children feeling stifled or anxious.
Another common mistake is talking poorly about an ex in front of one’s kids or others. Children can pick up on any little hint of resentment between parents, and trash-talking an ex to friends can reflect poorly on how one is handling the divorce and may also find its way back to the children. It’s also important for parents to avoid interrogating the children about what went on during a visit. They should calm down and react appropriately later.
These mistakes are common, and most divorcing parents will make them from time to time. However, taking the initiative to improve one’s reactions and staying more kid-focused will lead to better parenting in the long run. While some situations may arise that push a parent into wanting a child custody agreement modification, an attorney may be able to advise the concerned parent about what steps can be taken to modify these agreements and represent him or her in a hearing if necessary.
Source: Huffington Post, “Why Every Divorcing Parent Screws Up (and Why It’s OK)“, Kate Scharff, August 06, 2013